Thursday, November 12, 2009

Penpals

In August of 2009, my wife of 20 years filed false claims against me of violently abusing her one unforgettable day that month.

The restraining order insanely issued against me due to these false claims remains in effect to this day, and likely will for quite some time. I remain homeless and unemployed due to this viscious act committed by my former spouse.

Molly, my now ex wife, did this in order to acquire a tactical advantage in a divorce she clearly wants that I was completely unaware of until she filed this retraining order against me that prevents me from having any contact whatsoever with my daughter as well, whose name is Hayley. I have not seen or spoken to Hayley now for over a year. The pain from this particular strike against me is indescribable.

My wife told her free army of legal professionals that she suspects that child abuse was happening by me against Hayley. This particular claim is far more absurd than the abuse claims Molly made about me, which included a claim by Molly that I tried to kill her one night.

So of course, I ended up in jail in the first time of my 43 years soon after these false allegations were made against me by Molly.

The second night I was in jail, I decided to write Hayley a letter.

Now, writing Hayley fractures the restraining order falsely issued against me, since this is contacting Hayley in this manner. But since I was already in jail, I really was not concerned about breaking this abusive enforcement of psychotic laws now against me.

As I wrote her that night, I was not the fun dad I usually am with Hayley due to my state of mind. However, I never wrote anything to Hayley indicating hatred or anger towards her mother, Molly. Nor did I, in my words to Hayley, debate her mother's false accusations against me.

My undergrad is in child psychology, and I learned with my education that it is never a good idea to attack a parent in any way during a split of the parents, which is what is happening with our family right now. So I wrote to Hayley that I will always love her mother because her mother gave Hayley to me almost 12 years ago. This is the woman who put me in jail.

I also wrote to Hayley that the destruction happening to our family right now is difficult to understand for both of us, but we should try and grasp this situation together in time. I told Hayley with my writing to her that I loved and missed her, and that I hoped she would write me back soon.

I mailed this letter to her grandparent's house. These are Molly's parents, and are very wonderful people who have been married for more than 60 years. They understand the importance of a father in a child's life.

I only mailed this letter to Hayley after trading my breakfast the next day in order to get a stamped envelope from another inmate.

Hayley wrote me back soon afterwards, and I was thrilled beyond belief. Yet her letter understandably was cautious. She shared a bit with me about school and her friends. What really got me was the end of her letter to me:

P.S. Daddy- everything is going to be OK, no matter what....

I cried when I read this from her. She understands more than I fully realize about my own frame of mind, and what is happening to our family right now. I shed tears as I recall this that she wrote. She wrecked her father, and this is not the first time.

So my next letter to Hayley was much more jovial than my initial letter to her:

Dear Hayley....Hey, guess what? We are pen pals now.....YAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!

Then I went on to tell her how cool she is. I discussed what she wanted to be for halloween. I effortlessly made her laugh what I wrote to her in this letter. The words I shared with Hayley came from my heart.

Her next letter to me was much more upbeat. She was thrilled that we were pen pals now. She expressed clearly how happy she was that she was getting mail from her daddy now. This made me comforted greatly. I was at peace with her emotional and mental state now.

The next letter composed by me to Hayley was apparently as enjoyable to her as she read this. The letter included beautiful drawings from Tommy, my cell mate in jail. Hayley put the drawings by Tommy that I mailed to her on her school locker walls, she told me in her writing to me afterwards.

Tommy, my cell mate artist during that time, is a 22 year old homeless guy who was in jail for assault on another adult. He had been homeless for much of his life. And Tommy did have anger issues.

It took me about 2 weeks to gain his trust. Once this happened, I discussed with Tommy more benign outlets for his anger urges, and the importance of thinking before acting. Tommy also has done illegal drugs, so we discussed the impact of such drugs on his health and behavior.

I'm in jail with Tommy due to accusations that I'm a violent person- accusations against my wife from my wife. Yet I'm doing anger management with guys like Tommy.

Irony and surrealism were banging on my cell door with this reality at the time.

My family is destroyed. My family is gone. I have to learn to live with this. Yet this dialogue with Hayley is a very positive element to what is happening to our family. I was able to achieve and create joy simply by establishing a pen pal relationship with Hayley.

It has been said that great humor has an apex of great pain. I understand this more clearly now.

As I was released from jail, I was told never to write my daughter again. This violates the restraining order, the judge told me. I'm still in shock by this order to me by the judge via my wife's free prosecutor. I create joy in the middle of great pain, and I'm told to discontinue creating such joy.

It's now been almost a year since I was wrongfully incarcerated.

All tangible assets I did have were acquired and often sold by my now ex wife.

I remain homeless and unfortuantely unemployed.

Yet I continue to write my daughter Hayley, and she writes me back.

Because this family law system that exists unfortuantely worldwide is unacceptable. I'm was essentially punished for loving my daughter. I'm was and am punished for assuring the well being of Hayley mentally and emotionally.

These are the laws that exist in our country, and they must be discontinued.

Thank you for reading this.

86 comments:

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Anonymous said...

I've been living a similar hell for close to a decade.

Every night I go to sleep hoping for death, and hoping maybe the downstairs neighbors will leave their stove on or something, so that I can die, and yet my kids won't have had a parent who committed suicide.

I sincerely wish you all the best.

Quiact said...

To the one who commented last in particular, thank you. I wish you the best, and we both live in the depths of the abyss now, my friend. Stay strong.

Robert said...

The horror of your situation resonates with me quite profoundly.

Most especially your stoic sense of hope.

I get the distinct feeling that you've been refraining from any form of retaliation, fearing the harm it would do your child to see such destructive behavior out of both her parents.

There is an old saying though, nothing changes unless something changes.

I hope you've retained a good lawyer and acted accordingly to protect yourself. Seeing destructive behavior is bad...but seeing the passive acceptance of lies and abuse is no healthier.

Good luck to you, oh and by the way, I hope you are now active in seeking to change these unjust laws.

Quiact said...

Robert,

Thanks for your comment.

You are correct with not retaliating to ensure the stability of my daughter.

I have no legal counsel, as I am homeless and unemployed now.

There is also a warrant for my arrest for writing about my situation at various locations, and how unjust the family law system in the United States is.

Just A Dad said...

My word…what an ordeal. The court systems do not understand this new issue with fathers. For many years the mother has been chosen to raise the children and this is a wrong concept in many cases. Parental Alienation is a very dangers issue for everyone. It ruins the family, takes away a parent and in some cases can destroy a life and even kill the target parent because of the stress.
Stay strong and understand that peace of mind comes from the knowing that all things are for a reason, you and I just have a hard time understanding why a hammer is being used in our case. Let it go and find happiness again!
Keep coming to my blog at www.evilsofpa.blogspot.com One day there will be a National discussion on this and I hope a law passed that protects the target parent and children and penalizes the Alienator

tolbertme said...

Man, that sucks!
I was fortunate in that I saw the warning signs ahead of time and took measures to protect myself from false accusations. I easily prooved my side with video and audio evidence, but it cost me tens of thousands of dollars and 5 months of lost time while the legal process dragged on.
Is there anything that we can do to help exposure injustice and shed light on your case?

Quiact said...

Yes, you can do all that you wish. This ordeal made me homeless, so I presently have no legal counsel. Any help you can offer would be much appreciated

Quiact said...

Yes, Mike. Anything you can do to help me would be much appreciated. This ordeal has made me homeless, as I am presently unemployed. So I have no legal counsel. Thanks in advance.

Tom said...

"....I'm being punished for loving my daughter. I'm being punished for assuring the well being of Hayley mentally and emotionally."

People can just not comprehend this nor understand that it happens routinely in this country until they have actually lived it. I know this story soooooo well and it is amazing to me you got the letters out of and into the jail without your ex's inteferance. Her parents must really be on your side - best of luck, my story turned out very bad. Fight for your daughter like "your life" depends on it - for in truth her future quality of life WILL depend on it. I'm a dad where this all started by my ex back in late 90's. I've been 100% estranged from my 2 daughters for over 10 yrs.

Anonymous said...

Its awful what is happening to our fathers and brothers. Please be careful. I friend of my jump off a building in Jan 2010. After all the false allegations, the restraining order and going to prison for stalking...... he left this world. His daughter will never know how much she was loved by her dad or what her mother did. I know. I have his daddy daughter diary. It makes me cry.

Anonymous said...

Please visit this web site for help:

http://www.dqrm.com/showlist/shared.htm

They are a nationally syndicated radio talk show with professional resources in child abuse defense specifically accused in order to derail custody cases. It includes professional lawyers and private investigators.

Quiact said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Dan,
I feel for you. I am a mother and my son has been turned, twisted and brainwashed against me for over 2 years. I did everything for him, for 12 almost 13 years, and now he cut all ties with me, his younger sister and BOTH sides of the family. The father in this case decided to go to court last month and get a restraining order on me----for what???---nothing. It was dismissed. He abandoned his house and has moved with his wife and my son. We have joint legal custody but he just up and left. He also left his own daughter, 11 years old, all because of this "woman". Horrible as it is, I'm glad my daughter is with me and I know she is safe. My son on the other hand----he has been screwed up by this fiend mentally and emotionally. If he ends up leading a normal life, I will be surprised.

Anonymous said...

Is there any update to your situation. Do you qualify for any free legal help becuase you are unemployed and homeless?

In the UK- where I am, you would qualify for help. What about the equity of the house you presumably mortgaged, can some of that not be used- I presume you cannot be stopped from doing this?
Claire

Jim Bailey - JimBWarrior - HandsOnEqualParent said...

Stay Strong my Friend and thanks for joining and encouraging our New Efforts.

As your dtory tells you have joined the croud of disenfranchised Parents and thus Grand Parents.

The way fwd is not clear to me but I am very aware that the croud is growing and HOPE this will set us free of the APATHY that has let the situation get well out of hand over many generations.

Onward - Together - Ration Shed - Jim

Jim Bailey - JimBWarrior - HandsOnEqualParent said...

Stay Strong my Friend and thanks for joining and encouraging our New Efforts.

As your dtory tells you have joined the croud of disenfranchised Parents and thus Grand Parents.

The way fwd is not clear to me but I am very aware that the croud is growing and HOPE this will set us free of the APATHY that has let the situation get well out of hand over many generations.

Onward - Together - Ration Shed - Jim

dancewheels said...

I know how you feel because i've been where you are now 20+ years ago. I know your pain and this needs to stop and I will fight for Parental Alienation to be a hate crime with the loss of custody to the non custodial parent and jail time.

Anonymous said...

I only discovered that this horrible form of abuse had a name a year ago, while in the midst of a custody battle with my children's father. I have two children, and one of my children has been completely alienated from me, something I had known but had to have substantiated with a custody evaluation. I have a wonderful, loving, close relationship with my
other child. I have not seen my oldest child in over a year, yet enjoy a shared custody arrangement with my younger child. I am heart broken and angry that the court system did not take my statements and fears seriously. If it had done so, this would have been addressed during the period my child still had a relationship with me. Now we are more than a year after the fact, and my child is in therapy which had to be court ordered because her father refused to get it. I am terrified that the damage is too far gone, and that I will never hold my little girl again. Thank you for your story. I am so sorry this happening to our children.

Anonymous said...

Dear Sir,

I feel for you. I had to go through a couple of rough years with my former spouse using false allegations to try and alienate the children from me.

Luckily now I have my kids for four nights every week... I still have to pay her a fortune every month, and I am amazed that there wer absolutely no consequences to her using false allegations...

My wife of four years had a Diploma in Abused Womens Advocacy and worked for years in womens shelters.

When I first met her I thought this was very admirable, and that she must be a compassionate person.

What I realized later is that the Violence Against Women Industry is closely linked to the Divorce Industry. Many of the organizations here in Canada that say they represent "Families and Children" actually mean they represent "Abused" women in their attempt to kidnap the children and alienate the father.

I wish I could help you...

Women who make false claims should experience what they now experience in the England.. Jail Time.. Loss of Custody...

lmdguy007 said...

I HAVE GONE THROUGH EXACTLY THE SAME THING WAS THROWN INJAIL FOR STALKIG ALL OF WICH I PROVED TO BE FALSE ATER FIRING MY LAWYER BECAUSE HERE IN TIMMINS ONTARIO THEY ARE JUST AS CROOKED AS THE POLICE THE CROWN AND SOMETIMES THE JUDGE WHO MAKES THE LAWS UP AS HE GOES AND DOES NOT GO BY THE WAY THE LAW IS WRITTEN BUT ANYWAY I HAD A LAWYER AND I WAS FOUND GUILTY FOR ONE OF THE OFFENSES I WAS CHARGED WITH AS I HAD MANY CHARGES BUT I THINK 5 OR SIX WERE DEALT WITH THAT TIME AND MY LAWYER OVER CONFIDENT WAS SLOPPY LOST THE CASE SAID I AM SORRY OVER AND OVER SAID HE WOULD TAKE THE APEAL FOR FREE AS THE JUDGE IS WRONG WITCH I AGREE BUT THATS BESIDES THE POINT THERE WERE SO MANY LIES HE COULD HAVE SHOWN HOW SHE WAS UN CREDIBLE INSTEAD HE WAS FIGHTING THE CASE NOT SHOWING HER LIES AND THE POICES WRONG DOING BUT RATHER FIGHTING THE CHARGES BY THE BOOK LIKE WHY DID YOU NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL GOING THAT SHE SAID 1 BRUISE HER MOM SAID TWO AND HER SISTER SAID 3 DIME SIZED AND SO ON BUT ANYWAY SO I PAID FOR THE TRANSCRIPTS FOR THIS LAWYER TO TAKE THE APPEAL JUST TO HAVE HIM ABANDON IT WITHOUT MY KNOWING AND WELL IF YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE LAW ONCE YOUR CHANCE FOR AN APPEAL IS DONE IT IS DONE SO ANYWAY I AM STUCK WITH THIS ONE CHARGE THAT ID REDICULOUS AS WELL AS APPARENTLY HAPPENING 8 OR 9 MONTHS PRIOR TO THE DAY SHE HAD ME CHARGED AND WELL THE OTHER THINGS WERE PROVEN AS FALSE BUT AS FAR AS I SEE THE JUDGE HAD TO DECIDE I WAS GULTY OF ONE OF THESE CHARGES SO AS TO KEEP THE POLICE IN THE CLEAR AS THEY REALLY HANDLED THE SITUATION OVERLY AGREESIVE AND TOTALY A VIOLATION OF MY RIGHTS AND IN THE END I HAD THE EXACT SAME RESTRAINING ORDER
AFTER MY LAWYER BUNGLED MY TRIAL I FIRED HIM BUT HE WAS STIL SUPPOSED TO BE DOING THE APPEAL AND I REPRESENTED MYSELF FOR 7 OR8 MORE CHARGES OF STALKING AND DISOBEYING AND ORDER TALKING TO HER AUNT YOU SEE I WAS THROWN IN JAIL JUST TO HAVE MY CONDITIONS CHANGED AND THE TOLD ME THIS AS WELL ALL THESE THINGS SHE CLAIMED WERE PROVEN TO BE FALSE ANDI REPRESENTED MYSELF AND AFTER THAT I REPRESENTED MYSELF IN FAMILY COURT AS THE LAWYERS IN THIS CITY SUCK AND AS FAR AS I SEE UNLESS YOU HAVE MONEY OR UNLESS YOU ARE A GIRL YOU MIGHT AS WELL REPRESENT YOURSELF BECAUSE THE BEST YOU WILL GET IS A LAWYER WHO JUST KEEPS TELLING YOU TO GO ALONG WITH WHATVER IS CLAIMED AS IT WILL NOT HELP YOU SEE YOUR CHILDREN ANY FASTER TO BE DENYING THE CLAIMS MADE AGAINST YOU AND AS WELL NOT TO TELL OF THE MANY THINGS THAT WERE DONE TO YOU SO ANYWAY AGAIN REPRESENTIG MYSELF IN FAMILY COURT I WON EVERYTHING FATHERS USUALLY GET EVERY SECOND WEEKEND SPLIT HOLIDAYS 2 WEEKS IN THE SUMMER THEN 3 AND THEN 4 HEY NOT PERFECT BUT ITS A START WELL THERE WAS NO POINT IN THERE BEING ANY BECAUSE THIS GIRL WILL NOT OBEY THE ORDER AND WELL WHEN I TOOK HER BACK TO COURT I AD TO HAVE A CASE CONFERENCE FIRST AND WELL I HAD THE SAME JUDGE WHO FAVOURED HER IN THE CRIMMMMINAL AND HE AGAIN WAS ALL FOR HER WHEN IT WAS HE DISOBEYING THE ORDER I EVEN HAD TEARS OF FUSTRATION AND HE TOLD ME THERE IS SOMETHING SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH ME AND WHEN I SAID IF I DO NOT OBEY A COURT ORDER I AM THROWNIN JAIL HE GOT UP SYING THATS IT I AM NOT GOING TO LISTEN TO THIS AND ENDED THE CONFERENC ATA WICH TIME I HAD TO STOP FIGHTING FOR A WHILE AS IT WAS GOING ON THREE YEARS BECAUSE I WAS GOING TO SERIOUSLY SNAP LIKE WHO HAS THE RIGHT WETHER IT IS A JUDGE OR AN EX TO PREVENT A FATHER FROM SEEING HIS CHILDREN AND I AM SO TIRED OF THESE STUPID ASS WOMAN WHO CRY ALL KINDS OF ABUSE AFTER YOU LEAVE THEM OR NOT EVEN IN SOME CASES LIKE REALLY THIS NONESENSE IS TO MUCH AND IT IS MADE SO EVERY BAD RELATIONSHIP THE GUY WAS VERBALLY AND MENTALLY ABUSIVE HEY THATS CALLED BEING AN ASSHOLE AND IF THATS THE CASE WHY THE HELLL DO THEY NOT LEAVE LIKE REALLY IN MOST CASES IT BECAUSE ITS FOR THEIR OWN SELFISH REASONS AND IT IS BECAUSE THEY HAVE IT TO GOOD NOW I AM NOT A BELEIVER IN TREATING WHO YOU ARE WITH BADLY BUT I DO STRONGLY BELEIVE YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE

lmdguy007 said...

I SEE MORE WOMAN GOING ON WITH HOW USELESS AND STUPID THERE HUSBANDS OR BOYFRIENDS ARE THAN THE OTHER WAY AROUND BUT THE MINUTE THEY BREAK UP BECAUSE THEY GUY MAY HAVE SAID SOME THINGS THAT MAY NOT BE RIGHT BUT MORE THAN LIKELY IT WAS A TOO WAY STREET BECAUSE MEN WHO ARE ABUSIVE HAVE NO CONTROL AND THEY USE VIOLENCE WOMAN WHO HAVE ANGER ISSUES AND ABUSE THEY USE WORDS BECAUSE THEY KNOW THE COULD NOT OVER POWER THE GUY SO THIS FINE LINE ON ABUSE THAT THEY HAVE CLOUDED SO MUCH THAT ALL IT TAKES IS SOME IDIOT COP TO COME ALONG AND JUMP THE GUN AS THEY ALWAYS DO WHEN IF THEY WERE TO DO ACTUAL POLICE WORK THEY WOULD ASK SOME QUESTIONS THAT WOULD SHOW WETHER THIS IS A TRUE CASE OF ABUSE OR NNOT BECAUSE I DO NOT THINK THE POLICE CARE THIS IS THE WHOLE ISSUE WE MEN HAVE TO REALISE WE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING FOR THIS FOR 30 YEARS AND AVE GOTTEN NOWHERE AND THATS BECAUSE THEY DO IT IN PURPOSE SO WE ARE SO PREOCCUPIED FIGHTING WITH ONE ANOTHER THAT WE DO NOT REALISE THEY DO ALL THESE THINGS SO EVERYONE IS FIGHTING WITH EVERYONE LIKE REALLY A FATHER HAVING TO FIGHT TO BE IN HIS CHILDS LIFE REALLY I GUESS WOMAN HAVE THE RIGHT TO OVER RULE A FATHERS GOD GIVEN RIGHT AND AS WELL COMMON SENSE ANYWAY EVERYTHING IS DONE TO KEEP US FIGHTING SOO WE DO NOT SEE THE WHOLE PICTURE AND ITS THIS WHOLE NEW WORLD ORDER CRAP AND THE THINGS THEY ARE DOING

lmdguy007 said...

THEY KEEP EVERYONE FIGHTING WITH EVERYONE SO WE DO NOT UNITE AND REALISE WE ARE AND HAVE BEEN AT WAR AND UNDER ATTACK FOR 60 PLUS YEAR WE ARE BEING POISONED AND IS THE REASON WHY NO ONE THINKS RIGHT THE FLORIDE IN THE WATER IS EQUIVALENT TO PROZAK AND IS THE MAIN INGREDIENT IN PROZAK HITLER WAS THE FIRST PERSON TO USE FLORIDATION OF THE WATER TO CONTROL THE HALLAUCOST VICTIMS IT REMOVE THEIR WILL TO RESIST MAKES A PERSON NOT CARE ANY MORE ABOUT ANYTHING AND DO NOT LET THE.1 PPM FOOL YOU IF THERE IS 50 PPM OF CALCIUM WICH IS QUITE COMMON WELL THEN YOU NEED 50.1 PPM OF F;LORIDE TO REGISTER .1 PPM OF FLORIDE SO CAN YOU SEE THE DECEPTION THEY ARE FLORIDATING BABIES BOTTLED WATER WHICH FLORIDE IS MADE FROM CHEMICAL WASTE AND IS A SERIOUS POISON AND CANCER CAUSING AGENT IT DAMAGES DNA AND IS USED AS A THYROID SUPPRESENT EEVERYTHING ON THE TV IS LIES FED TO US BY THOSE WHO OWN BIG PHARMA OR THE SAME PEOPLE WHO PROFIT FROM IT ALL

lmdguy007 said...

WE NEED TO STOP LOOKING TO THE TV FOR ALL THE ANSWERS INCLUDING TO BE THE BABY SITTERS BASICALLY NOT SAYING YOU DID BUT EVEN MYSELF AM GUILTY OF THIS A TIME OR TWO AND ITS ALL BECAUSE YOU THINK OU ARE DOING SOMETHING GOOD FOR YOUR CHILD BECAUSE THEY ENJOY IT AND WELL YOU THINK YOUR DOING GOOD THEN YOU FIND OUT ALL THE MESSAGES THE ARE PUTTING IN CHILDRENS SHOWS AND ACTUALLY PUTTING HOMOSEXUAL THOUGHTS OR WHAT HAVE YOU AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS BUT IT IS NOT REALLY BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW HOW EXTREMELY EASY IT IS TO HYPNOTIZE A PERSON AND WELL A CHILD WOULD BE SO MUCH EASIER BUT THEN WHEN THEY AR ALREADY IN A TRANCE FROM THE SHOW AND THEN THEY ADD A FLICKER AT JUST THE RIGHT SPEED AND THEY CAN IMPRINT WHATEVER MESSAGE THE WANT INTO YOUR CHILD BRAIN DOES THIS NOT MAKE YOU ANGRY AND IF NOT IT SHOULD WE ARE TREATED AS CRIMMINALS THROWN IN JAIL FOR UTTER NONESENSE AS YOU SURELY KNOW ONLY TO HAVE THESE TRUE CRIMMINALS DOING AS THEY WISH POISONING THIS ENTIRE PLANET KILLING AND CHEATING AND STEALING ONLY TO AVE US THROWN INJAIL PLAYING GAMES WITH OUR LIVES AS A F--KING JOKE WE NEED TO STOP THIS SHIT BECAUSE IN 2007 I ALSO HAD A FRIEND WEL WE WERE NOT SO CLOSE ANY MORE BECAUSE WE GREW APART BUT WE USED TO BE WELL HE HUNG HIMSELF AND THERE ARE MANY MORE THE SAME AND WELL IN THIS LITTLE NORTHERN TOWN IROQUOIS FALLS ONTARIO THE POLICE ARE INVOLVED IN PRETTY MUCH EVER SEPERATIONINVOLVING CHILDREN WERE THE MAN IS THROWN IN JAIL AND THIS RANGE FROM HITTING A WALL TO MONTHS PRIOR TO CLAIMS OF THREATS AND ABUSE ON THEM AND SOMETIMES THE CHILDREN BUT IN THESE LITTLE TOWNS ALL OVER THE NORTH AND INCLUDING TIMMINS ONTARIO PEOPLE NEED HELP AND WE NEED TO PUT A STOP THE ABSOLUTE MISSTREATMENT OF FATHERS AND THE ABUSE OF EVERY LAST RIGHT A PERSON IS SUPPOSED TO HAVE

lmdguy007 said...

THEY ABUSE EVERYONES RIGHTS AND ARE ABSOLUTELY BECOMMING THEE MOST IGNORANT FORCE THE PEOPLE IN THE NORTH HAVE EVER HAD THE NONE PLEASURE TO BE INTRUDUCED TO AND WELL I SAY IT IS JUST A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE MORE GOOD FATHERS END UP BEING MADE TO ACT OUT AND MAKE THEMSELVES HEARD IN A WAY THATS LOUD ENOUGH TO GET THE WHOLE WORLDDS ATTENTION AND EVEN THOUGH I WOULD NEVER CONDONE ANYONE HURTING ANYONE UNLESS ITS A MATTER OF PROTECTING YOURSELF OR YOUR FAMILY AND WELL WHAT DO YOU SUPPOSE THIS WOULD BE CONSIDERED BECAUSE THEY ARE PUTTING GOOD FATHERS IN BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD PLACE AND IT MAKES FOR A VERY THREATENING SITUATION
if you would like to no more you can look at my face book wall as i post my thoughts every other day and everythig i learn we all need to realise the bigger picture because as much as it hurts me to admit it the aceess to our children we are fighting for is meaningless if we cannot put a stop to the uncertain future we are allowing to become a certainty for our children and it is a bleak on at that if it is going to be ruled by those who have and are undoubtedly poisoning us our children and every last thing on this planet they have no respect for anything that gives us an abiblity to be free as they despise this internet and are in the process of making it harder t find the truth but they have a whole agenda on that that i could write about but i hav said enough for now

Anonymous said...

my god i feel for you so deeply i have tears running down my cheeks this is so sick i would love to fly there and kick those peoples asses who are doing this to you and your daughter.

these big interfering goverments need to be destroyed asap

Beautiful said...

Hi Dan, what is your current situation? Are you still not allowed to contact Hayley? Are you fighting this in court?

Quiact said...

I'm not, nor have I spoken with my daughter Hayley, or seen her, as I'm not allowed to do so. I'm unable to fight this in court presently.

Anonymous said...

via Supremacy Claus: Thank the feminist lawyer and its male running dogs. Feminism is a hate belief. All feminists must be purged from all academic positions, benches, and organizations. Any feminist utterance should be presumed to cause a hostile environment, not just for males, but for anyone who supports the American family. There should training to make sure no employee makes a feminist utterance. All male running dogs on the bench should be impeached or driven off the bench.

Vito Club said...

I am so sorry for what you are going through and have been through. I fought back as best I could and kept fighting until I saw The Sport being made out of it all on purpose. My kids told me they don't want to see they're parents fighting over them in court. The result is that I hav not seen or heard from them in a year and a half. However, I made a commitment to them and myself. I will never stop being the great father that I am. I will never give up or in. I walked away because someone has to be big enough to know when the games have to stop and the system has to stop being fortified with money that is not theirs. I will be fighting for what is right and just concerning the welfare of children around the world until the day I die. When my two children are old enough we will reunite, and perhaps sooner than later, because people such as I cannot walk away from the pain that other's who represent themself as advocating for the Family have caused in our world. I am sadly disapointed at people's behavior, and the built-in immunity for those who lie, cheat, and steal in our system. It has created an environment of lawlessness. This was not The Intent of The VAWA in this county along with other laws and behavior throughout that is no allowing due process and truth in justice. You all will see me posting for your Rights everywhere. "Ignorance" is bliss, but bliss for only a short time for those misusing our system. My brother's and sister's who have lost access to your kids, please continue to have faith and continue to tell your stories, because we cannot all be having a mass hallucination and be ignored forever.

Sincerely, Vito #1

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for what you are going through and have been through. I fought back as best I could and kept fighting until I saw The Sport being made out of it all on purpose. My kids told me they don't want to see they're parents fighting over them in court. The result is that I hav not seen or heard from them in a year and a half. However, I made a commitment to them and myself. I will never stop being the great father that I am. I will never give up or in. I walked away because someone has to be big enough to know when the games have to stop and the system has to stop being fortified with money that is not theirs. I will be fighting for what is right and just concerning the welfare of children around the world until the day I die. When my two children are old enough we will reunite, and perhaps sooner than later, because people such as I cannot walk away from the pain that other's who represent themself as advocating for the Family have caused in our world. I am sadly disapointed at people's behavior, and the built-in immunity for those who lie, cheat, and steal in our system. It has created an environment of lawlessness. This was not The Intent of The VAWA in this county along with other laws and behavior throughout that is no allowing due process and truth in justice. You all will see me posting for your Rights everywhere. "Ignorance" is bliss, but bliss for only a short time for those misusing our system. My brother's and sister's who have lost access to your kids, please continue to have faith and continue to tell your stories, because we cannot all be having a mass hallucination and be ignored forever.

Sincerely, Vito #1

Anonymous said...

via Gail Warner: Dan isnt there any way, with maybe the help of legal aid, that you can see Haley with supervised visits form child protection agencys. my ex did that . but I was supportive of that . I kept my children from my ex because he would pick them up sober and drive them home drunk out of hs mind. I woul think with the help of a layer thye letters and supervisd visits would be acceptable. maybe they can help you with the orderof protection too.

Anonymous said...

Dan,

It's Julian from FB.

While my jail term was 33 hours, I haven't seen my kids at all in 8 weeks and can't seem to get any answers.

I was illegally removed from my marital residence, stopped from seeing my kids twice for 6 weeks at a time, had my firearms collection impounded for two years, and been arrested and incarcerated all based on false allegations.

The family law system is a cancer, not just in the US, but worldwide.

As such, it needs to be eradicated.

I know for a fact that those brave enough to stand up to system and expose the corruption have lost their jobs at the very least, have had their homes under surveillance, at least one was burned to the ground, and a couple were murdered because the wife was about to blow the whistle on CPS and the family system in her state.

The corruption pervades the highest levels of political office.

They know that we now realize that the family "system" is a multi billion dollar business complete with cottage industries that enriches itself at the expense of the misery of parents.

They successfully engineered a manufactured gender war to keep the flames of hatred burning between parents all while sucking the blood out of everyone with no regard to the damage it is doing to the very children they are supposed to be protecting.

We must stand united, not just for mere change, but to implode the entire system.

The truth is coming out whether they like it or not. Real justice will indeed be served.

Beautiful said...

To anyone who cares, I am starting up a non profit group to fund parents who are being alienated from their children to have a fighting chance in family court. The funding will go to attorneys (who will fight), evaluators, counselors, etc. Whatever resources the parent needs to maintain their connection with their child/children. I have no idea how to set up a non profit, but I have several people who are helping me with this right now. The organization will be nationwide and will be called "The American Parental Alliance League," or APAL...because when you go into family court, you definitely need a pal. If you're interested in becoming a part of this, please contact me directly at beautifulspaces@gmail.com
Thanks, Michelle : )

emesz said...

……my wife of 20 years filed false claims against me of violent abuse…
I remain homeless and unemployed due to this viscious act committed by my former spouse.
Dear Quiact,
What you and your daughter going through is certainly a devastating experience.
I do not live in US and I do not claim any training in legal matters either, however, your story raises some crucial issues for consideration:
How could someone be incarcerated solely on allegations - to the best of my knowledge the accusations have to be proven and this is placed on the plaintiff’s shoulders. A child psychologist could testify …etc
What is the role of Social Welfare services in such a situation.
Further , the whole situation raises also an issue of libel / defamation.
I wonder what a lawyer would recommend.
All the best to you and your daughter.

DENNIS said...

I'm just at the beginning of the same scenario. My ex was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder of which I had no clue of... after the ordeal began; I started studying the mental illness. OMG! The professionals predict what happened and almost everyone I have spoken to with a loved one with bpd has parallel, almost identical situations. I'm fighting for my son because not only do I love him, but I know she grew up with physical, verbal, and sexual abuse... now my son is going to live with that insanity? I'll be homeless on disability before I give up my fight.

Anonymous said...

I divorced my alcoholic abusive husband, and I was court ordered not to discuss money with the kids. The kids and I had none. Their father now owes us $96k in back child payments. The kids are now adults between 28 and 36 years of age.

Kids know, when she is 18 she can make her phone calls to you and you can then build your relationship. Do something positive for her and you in the mean time. Find a job, a hobby, an education, make good friends, and live an excellent life. This does not mean you must have lots of money. You must find your path upward however. Join support groups, a church, a writers group, an art group, take an adult ed class, or teach one...find a place where you can move forward with your life.

Anonymous said...

Ida Dobrescu: "this is great blog, Dan. thanks. the story is one of the tabu family drama that has been rutinley happening although cruely represented by imoral laws. any law that brakes the family unity at such extreme is unecceptable."

Anonymous said...

Fran Allen July 29 at 4:13pm:

omg im so sorry!! why did she do such a thing to you after 20 years of marriage may i ask?? why did she do it to hayley!! that is so messed up why couldnt she just be woman ebough and level with you why did she have to ruin your life! karma dan she'll get hers in the long run what comes around goes around!! if you ever need to vent i'm here because i have so much going on in my life not as bad as yours nut my life isnt peaches and cream either. i hope things get better for you you. you seem like one hell of a great guy !!

Anonymous said...

Sammy Breeden July 29 at 5:46pm:

i really do feel you man. i haven't seen my daughter in 6 months.and before that it was 4 months...not exactly the same, but as you know every day cuts straight across your soul. i only spoke to her because she was with my mother for an hour and my mom went guerilla family. i have two daughters, and because of the womens decisions and perjury i have not seen either for quite some time. my older daughter is going to be 9 and needs her dad. my younger daughter is going to be nine months and needs her father. my friend, do not give up. i am currently renting a room for 100 a week to save money and living off of bologna and pbj,ramen to save money and get a pit bull lawyer. i do not know your particular situation but your love for your daughter is clearly evident. do not ever give up, even if all odds are stacked against you; including a law system that is completely biased against fathers. i swear to god if i get a record contract, which i really believe i will in the near future i am going to help you out because i know your exact torment. keep your head up

Anonymous said...

Sallie Elkordy:

I am so sorry for your pain Dan. I would be distrought beyond word if I were unable to communicate with my daughter. I was; however, unable to communicate with my Father and it was my mother who was responsible for this too. Here is the ...song I wrote for him. True love never dies and no separation can destroy it. i hope this brings you solice, Dan.

Seperated from him for 25 years, with lies galore and still...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAzpQkPV4JQ
THE SECOND VERSE IN PARTICULAR. You will note that my remembrances are from childhood. Ingrained in my soul. I dedicate this to YOU!

Anonymous said...

Deborah Siladie July 31 at 1:42pm:

Don't give up Dan....Fight with all your mind, soul, body and strength. You have to....for Haley, but more importantly, so you can begin to live again, in spite of what happened to you. The people who have hurt you in any way will be recompensed. Remove yourself from all negative and violent people. Rise up and walk....

I believe in you....Believe in yourself too.

~Deborah

Anonymous said...

Lee Griffin-Scott:

I have read these Dan. My heart breaks for you. We have been there. Where we live they do not jail you for not paying Child Support.......yet. THe system is broken, nothing more nothing less. I get frustrated and upset when I see people con...stantly on about " Deadbeat Dads", where is the equality that women so desperately wanted............"Deadbeat Mums" simply dont exist.

We have had the false allegations ad nausem for the last 10yrs, and it is ramping up again with a new batch of allegations for the "mother" to allege toward us. The child is almost 14, so only 4 more years of this nightmare to contend with. You would not believe what we have had thrown our way. You can always email me for further details should you want.

You are in my thoughts. If I were a religious person, you would also be in my prayers.

Hugz

Lee

Anonymous said...

Pastor Paul P. Waldmiller:

Thanks for sharing. As you are probably already aware, it's all about the money. My philosiphy is that all that have partaken in this corrupt system of greed should be immediately arrested and incarcerated for a long, long time. These are e...vil minded people. Without true repentance, these corrupt judges, lawyers, cops, social workers, domestic violence workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc.., will continue to manipulate the monster(Civil and Criminal Judicial System) that has eaten us both(as well as many mommys and daddys aroud the world). Their specific crimes committed are Crimes Against Humanity, and many Human Rights Violations. I could easily establish a litany of victoms that have been abused by these so called "human beings" from everyplace, everywhere in every nation. You and I, are not alone.

Anonymous said...

Suzanna Rickard Nope:

My ex was/is a real jerk. But I never tried to block his access to our kids. That is a terrible thing your ex is doing to you and your child. My ex sabotaged his relationship with our (now grown) children all by himself. He did not even bother to respond to our daughter's wedding invitation

Tim Taylor said...

You are not alone, nor are you without recourse. The order for the RO can be ordered vacated, but you will have to do some spiffy legwork to prove it is baseless. Im truly saddened by the details, as they sound to much like what happened to me. My prayers are with you, and if my law library can be of any use, email. timguitartaylor@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Timothy Taylor: Your best bet is to dismiss the lawyers, take it upon yourself to fight this, and then have at it. Ive done a considerable amount of reseacrh, and won most of the battles, though lost enough of them to havbe it hurt badly. I WON the TRO att...empt served on me while I was in the hospital with a broken neck...and am still fighting off their appeal. I was told by every lawyer I was also screwed, but guess what? They were wrong! One the ones who told me I was screwed twice is Robert Powell, noted civil rights atty, and he was dead wrong. I am filing yet another series of actions next week that will have them begging for mercy...but they will get none from me. If I lose, I didnt spend much money to do it

Anonymous said...

Emilia Zsuzsanna: Rak I've walked that thin line for over 4 years now and I've had enough... well for today anyways. Bottom line is you could have the best lawyer in the state and spend up to a million dollars be TOTALLY innocent of any sort of any wrongdoing, ...even from a "tactical" standpoint and in the end not a DAMNED thing matters. Many have happy endings one day, some don't. But if you decide to take your life you will never know how YOUR STORY will turn out. That's the only thing that has kept me here, that and a promise I made to a dear friend who found her sister's body about a week after she took her life. It was in Florida's summer heat... I just can't do that to my husband. After everything he's been through with me all this time I just can't do that to him. So I keep living hoping that I will find a happier tomorrow... evntually.

Anonymous said...

Lyn Kat Genders August 9 at 12:15pm:

elo dan..just read a bit of your blog....i no weve been friends on here for some time...i wasnt aware of the full extent of it all....you must really be goin thru it :( how old is your daughter ?
i was thrown into a very similar destructible time about 7yrs ago...it went totaly out of my control...i lost my home my job my partner and other things that meant the world to me....
i was lost for a few yrs...a recluse almost...but something kept telling me not to give up!!! there is light at the end of the tunnel....all i no is that the 'now' your living isnt forever...there are your 'tomorrows' to share with haley, even tho they may be a few yrs away, this will make you stronger and you will need this wisdom you are gaining for your daughter when she comes back ito your life...use this time and take it for what it is, i know its difficult...its torture even, but turn it into a blessing if you can?????
i hope you dont take this the wrong way and find me patronising...i do speak from experience and i promise you it will be worth it, down the line........she will be in your life again, and your lives will both be richer for this....you dont have to say you love your wife..all you have to do is respect her as the mother of your daughter and allow hayley to realise this also :)it isnt wrong to dislike her for the hell she has caused you!! it is in fact only natural and right...for you to understand this will help you in your healing process. i wish you all the best in this hard and painful time....and if you need to talk ....just mail me ...hugs lyn :) hope ive helped a tiny bit...i no it sometimes helps to hear others spk of similar stuff and to no they have come thru it!!!! so can you!

Anonymous said...

Lou Anne Kitchener: I would say according the your daughter's replies, she has not yet been programmed in "Hositle Aggresive Parenting". Dan, you stand a good chance when Hayley turns 18. My kids hate me so much, it's not likely I will ever seem them again in my life. Hang on Dan!

Anonymous said...

Tammy Cook Watson: My EX~hubby of 18 yrs tried pulling the same crap on me in court ( it didn`t work).

Anonymous said...

The fight begin's for decent father's. Watch the video below, copy and paste the link, it's time to stand up and be counted.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wcjABYTF0g

Anonymous said...

Brian Passarelli:


my god, i fear my soulmate has turned to this type thing. your story made me cry. Sad thing is, did you get out of jail yet and get your court hearing? Where are you at now, Dan?
My child is still ''floating'' inside my soulmate who you know but im nervous saying her name cause of the temporary restraining order that is on me until our court case [called a PFA here]. BTW, thanks to support and wise owl women, i took the action to get a PFA on my soulmate which i anticipate upset her greatly, but remmenber i was upset too, but anyway this shuld offer me great or greater leverage. of course, allo of this is very adversarial , unintelligent, and downright immature especially with our kid on the way.

Anonymous said...

Keith: my god i feel for you so deeply i have tears running down my cheeks this is so sick i would love to fly there and kick those peoples asses who are doing this to you and your daughter.

these big interfering goverments need to be destroyed asap

Anonymous said...

Craig Fellows"

disgusting ....the laws in this nation are created in many aspects to destroy the family by psychopathic elite who see human as even less than cattle....I hope your able to overcome all your diffulculties Dan and be reunited with your daughter despite your ex's terrible vindictive nature.

Anonymous said...

Clark Robinson: Sorry to hear what you're going through, Dan. This too shall pass, brother.

Anonymous said...

you know what makes me mad the fact that u want to see your daughter and cant. i am in the opossite situation i want my childrens father in thier lives but he is "occupied" and full of excuses and blame...cest la vie

Anonymous said...

Mary Ruiz: hon things cant really be that bad keep your chin up! just so someone can sock you in it what else is there to look forward to no?

Anonymous said...

Peggy Ruch:

Not to get too personal too soon, but I'd like to share something with you that might give you a little hope for your future with your child. For years my husband and I battled his ex in different ways about their daughter. Well, one day the daughter grew up, figured out what had really been going on, basically now doesn't deal with the mother and has given us two beautiful grandchildren. They do grow up and they do learn the truth about who really loves them. Cheers ...

Anonymous said...

Noelle Jackson:

wow, i didnt know, sooo sorry to hear this makes all other innocent claims harder to push through.
Dan stay strong, i know what pain you are suffering, strange im about to fly home to my scene of the crime to speak, 2 yrs later and i still r...eact. we may go through tough times becase of abusers, but they will always be abusers and we will always recover to be stronger than before,appreciate the good in people more, they have nothing but shame........ sending good wishes to you.

Anonymous said...

DarkChylde Ex Vorago:

Im really sorry to hear about this for you, Dan. I saw what my hubby's ex did to him, about the kids and child support and all other things, and even that wasnt as bad as what you are goin thru. This is serious, bad, and believe me, she has it coming coz karma is a BITCH!!!

Anonymous said...

John Scott Ridgway:

Oh, so sorry to hear about this. False allegations kind of slam you against the wall with no defense. Happened to me once, but had no consequences because the person was reporting her shrink for being from another planet, too... anyways, feel for you buddy.

Anonymous said...

Phil Trutherbirthertenther Wolf:

Sorry to hear you were subjected to the guilty before proven innocent part of family law and courts. Read up on parental alienation syndrome. You have a rocky road ahead and you have my prayers.

Anonymous said...

Laura Lee:

I'm sorry to hear about that. Divorce is the choice of an adult. I do think your wife has the right to choose to have no further contact with you. That's her choice. However, it's a very low thing to make a false allegation to deny a father contact with her daughter. I don't know the facts of the matter. However, I would say this. When a woman acts in a manner that is extreme, out of character, and things of this nature -- look for an affair. When a spouse has an affair -- they can turn into a different person and guilt knows no bounds in projection of evil onto the innocent spouse. Hire a PI - or have someone else do it if you cannot due to the restraining order. See if there's an affair -- and if so, there's your explanation perhaps if you are innocent.

Anonymous said...

Jason Hart:

I'm sorry to hear you've been separated from your little girl. I have a two year-old, it would kill me.

I have a suggestion - keep a journal especially for her, documenting your thoughts & feelings towards her, so that even if this goes on for years, in the future there will be some counterbalance to propaganda & hearsay that you "abandoned" her, or she just wasn't in your mind.

Anonymous said...

Kevin Davis:

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. Mine have not been that bad, but I have had both my wives hit me, cut me, etc. all in an attempt to get me to lash out violently because, well, who is it that will be arrested if I succumb? I have to take punches, slaps, knifings, and threats...all because I have no choice, no way to get out, and everyone is immediately against me...simply because I have a penis! I understand SOMETHING of what you're going through, and wish you the best. This system must be changed. We need a movement for men's rights!

Anonymous said...

Jackie Stratton: Very sorry that you are going through this. :(

Anonymous said...

Timothy Taylor:

seriously you need to get this guy on your side. He can help you. You need expert help, and if he cannot help you, he likely knows where you CAN turn. There is no way being homeless, or in jail is in the "best interests of the child" nor is zero contact the answser. Having said that, always keep in mind, the ex wife is your enemy in this action, and you can never trust her again.

Anonymous said...

Deanna Overmiller Dunlop:

And then they ignore proof that's right in front of them! My daughter was interviewed by the court, she told them 3 times that "Daddy tells me to hate my Mommy" and the Judge blatantly ignored it. I almost got thrown out of court for trying to get her to read what was in front of her face. Judge Moss had the typed interview in her hand and had the nerve to tell me that there was no alienation. That's the day I lost my world and any belief I had in the so called family system

Anonymous said...

Jimmy Hall:

Sadly, courts and police almost always side with women, no matter what the truth is.....

Anonymous said...

Leigh Stokes:


Yes they do listen to women in court more than men and a lot of women are very convincing something needs to be done .Naomi Van Noland you need a lot of money to fight anything in court i was put on a restaining order when my ex made a fals...e statment against me and i complied with it with no admishions because i couldnt pay to fight it as well as the property setlement as well.As well as the stress of your family falling apart its something you dont want to admit or face up too sometimes people change and relationships fall apart not being nasty but it dosnt sound like its ever happend to you before naomi.People going through what Dan is going through need support and friendship not your opinion im sure Dan is dealing with it as best he can it is the worst thing that could happen to have your child taken out of your life.

Anonymous said...

Aaron Skables:

Never go to family court. Make a special appearance and challenge the jurisdiction.

Anonymous said...

Terri Bullard:

I am so sorry to hear this. Some women give all of us a bad name. I offered my exs to see their sons, but they just walked away.

Anonymous said...

Lori Bolton:

MANY Prayers for you and Hayley Dan. It SO breaks my heart. Oh and BTW did I tell you how beautiful I think YOUR Hayley is :) ((hugz))

Anonymous said...

Lori Bolton:

Your a Good Descent Loving man, Dan and you SO deserve to have your Sweet and Beautiful Hayley back in your arms :) God Bless you

Anonymous said...

Lynn Davis:

Sorry Dan about all this...Pray in the name of Jesus seriously God answers them. But it has to be with all your heart and all your soul. He has a mission for you Dan, through your suffering you are being prepared to help others.
I know it so...unds cliche..But I swear it works.

Anonymous said...

Kirsten Ree:

From my heart Dan; please don't give up this mission. There are thousands out there who need you. The figures are not important tho... if you can help ONE, it's worth it. Prayers for you :)

Emilia Rak said...

Please stop posting the incorrect information that "the law ALWAYS sides with the woman" as it is simply untrue. The law is flawed as human beings are those that make and "enforce" them... There is no justice.

Regardless of whether a child is kept from their fit loving father or fit loving mother they are ALWAYS kept WITH AN ABUSER and those come in BOTH GENDERS.

Anonymous said...

Lacey Stinson"

That's a very hard story to hear. While I believe the laws intended to protect people who are trapped in abusive, and even life-threatening relationships are worthwhile and necessary, I also believe that filing false claims should be punish...able to an even greater extent, as in time in jail, one or two years minimum, depending on the motives for the false claims. The system doesn't always work. Judges and lawyers can have a grievance against abuse agencies and they use their power to put the victim in jail instead of the perpetrator (yes, it happens). A judge may also simply choose to believe one person's story against another, sans physical evidence that the story is true -- a situation in which the case ought to be thrown out. The accused should always be innocent until proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. False claims can be very serious. They can even put people on death row (one reason there should be NO death penalty). If the plaintiff is not able to prove that the abuse happened -- which is a possibility even if it did happen -- can it be prosecuted as a false claim?

"One particular night in August?" That's quite specific. How could her claim stand if there is no definitive proof?

There are so many ways the miscarriage of justice can happen. I don't think a restraining order requires proving abuse took place. It seems that a counter suit is your only recourse. To demonstrate that there is no proof of any alleged abuse, and that there was personal gain obtained from filing such an order, the combination of the two could establish it as a false claim. But what does the law say about that? Except that maybe the order should be dropped with no compensation for damages caused by the false claim? The law sucks when it's misused.

Anonymous said...

Dan,
It's sad. You are embarrassing yourself. A Healer? Are you joking? You need to seek help. I feel only your hate, and fear reeks from you. What is healing there? Nothing.

Quiact said...

Anonymous said...
I had 2 daughters also that I raise I haven't see them for 3 years, will never see them again, my ex has the best dirty lawyer of the silicone valley, each time I try something I found myself with new false allegations threat, this system terrified me. I piratically lost my mind to be separate from my 2 daughters. The strongest win, and yes this is warr.

Anonymous said...

This is tragic. I feel for you. My husband was falsely accused and lost almost everything as well. And no one cares until it happens to them or someone they love.

Anonymous said...

first time i went to court got accused also of domestic violence and child abuse and my x claimed if i had visitation with my sons i would take them out of the country,because i did not surrender my foreign passport to the judge it took me 16 months to get supervised visitation.also my x filed a violation of restraining order with the police with the intent of having me arrested,lucky me i was 50 miles away from where she claimed i satlk her and i was in a party with lots of witness to testify to that,but you know it is funny this was investigated by the police and she did not get arrested for false testimony.thru out the divorce trial she did all to allienate me from my sons,in her anger rampage she even presented a videotape that she claimed was the proof that my son was out of control due to my abuse,well in the judge oppinion that proved her own child abuse,so after this laim attempt from her side she put my son in the UCLA mental institution for 3 weeks in order to get evidence that my son behavior was due to my abuse.thru same friends that worked for the insurance company paying for the bill at UCLA i got him out because get this "was nothing wrong with the child"questioned by the insurance company why were they paying for this? he got released that day.we went to court once again and because the judge was an idiot he gave me visitation with one son and no visitation with the other.
After this i made the most painfull decision of my life.
In order to protect my sons i had to leave the country so this mess would stop.i havent seen my sons in 8 years and not a day goes by i dont think and try to imagine how they look.

Anonymous said...

I saw this on a FB wall that someone posted. I had to read it. And once I read it I could not stop. And I could not stop the tears as well.

My name is Michelle. I also see how the courts ignore a fathers right. Exspecially when there is no abuse towards the children. A father is ignored where he should not be. A father plays an important role in a childs life as well as the mother. Courts do not see this. They believe every accusation without actual proof. I am sorry. I wish I could change it.

It is wonderful you had such a great penpal. Who better else to have as a penpal as your own child?! Lots of prayers coming your way. For that is all I have to give.

warriormummy said...

well, I considered setting myself alight with petrol on parliament steps last sunday. knowing my luck ill probably survive. instead i am setting off on a 3000 km journey up the north island of new zealand and back, a protest hikoi (journey). gathering signatures for my petition to have family care boards vs. family court regime. pushing the financial burden on taxpayers, money would be better spent assisting the children and parent/s who are struggling. and as it is winter here, I may die from exposure - if anyone attempts to murder me, well i don't advise it as it will be an excuse to unleash my fury. suicide, ongoing psychological stress and abuse from government, families don't give a fuck? what a world we live in.

Anonymous said...

It has been 8 years my husband hasn't seen his son. No contact and accsed of bieng verbally abusive but all documents and court papers even from ministry of children and family say the mother is the abuser but they claim i am. family court is a joke.